Thursday, 29 November 2012

Dammit!! I'm not kinky? I'm typical??

I just came across this article in Psychology Today about D/s and BDSM. The author's position is that domination/submission is a rather normal part of everybody's sexuality from Vanilla to all shades of sexy. Here is the gist of what he said...
"The venerable erotic subculture of BDSM is not an atypical variant of human sexuality. Rather, its enthusiasts intensely focus on one of the most basic and universal--and typical--components of human sexuality. They were the first to identify the primal dominance/submission cue in the neuropsychology of the humanbrain and hold it up to the light. All contemporary textbooks rightly include a prominent chapter on sexual orientation. Perhaps future textbooks will afford dominance orientation the same attention, instead of relegating it to the status of unorthodox paraphilia."
Here's the link for the full article
This isn't as far out as it used to be but I don't think there's going to be a spanking land at Disneyland, but if they did I'm sure it would by good! :)

Tuesday, 27 November 2012


YEAH!!!! 3 Books of the Pandora series - The Story of Rachel, Annik's Story and Soldier Boi are up and live at Smashwords!!! Whew! Now I can sleep!!

Big shout out to Julia Hendrix!

Sunday, 25 November 2012

On Spirituality

One of the themes that I have in my writing is sexuality, in all its flavors, without pain, fear or guilt. Yet, in our society, damning judgements are made by so many usually in the name of some moral code. On one extreme are fundamentalists of all types- women beaten in the Middle East by self appointed 'protectors', to kids in school calling other children sluts because of the way they dress, just to name a few.

I have always found good sex to be a transcendental experience. Not ALL sex- a good romp, a happy quickie has it's place! But those wonderful, passionate encounters, where I lose myself in my partner, who is also lost in me; those episodes have a spiritual dimension. They're just plain GOOD. In and of themselves, they're a gift.

Which begs the question 'Gift from Whom?'.

For a long time, I have explored issues of the Spirit. I believe that we are MORE than these atoms, molecules, cells and organs that make up our bodies. My explorations have led me to the books of Neal Donald Walsch- if you are interested in inspired writing, his books are magnificent.

Just as I am a person with a Spiritual side, I am also a rational being, living in a world where reason is also a value, no? But generally speaking, science does not allow for questions of Spirituality. Which makes sense- if empirical methods are those employed, and you cannot see or measure one's soul, what the hell can you expect? And, in my life, the advances of science have led to many many good things in this world I live in.

I love my hot tub! LOL

I remember when I was an undergrad in Psychology, and one of my professors- a man who had lost the love of his life to cancer- stood before the class telling us that the sooner we learn to accept that when the brain dies we cease to exist, when he said that, I was profoundly disturbed.

And yet that professor's viewpoint is an accepted tenet of psychology, neurology, and even brain surgery.

Up till now.
Over the last few months, I've read a tale of a remarkable experience by one of the top brain surgeons in the world. No kidding- his resume reads like one of the characters in a romance novel! Accomplished MD, Ivy League professor, tall, handsome…

I digress….

Anyway, he had the experience of being literally brain dead for a week. And he came back.

And he has a message to tell, and I want to share it here.

IF you've read this far, then take this gift of what Doctor Eben Alexander has to say here:

Naturally, he was pilloried by many other scientists, and here is his response.

These articles were a delight for me to read, and I hope that you enjoy them too!

KD and Desmond

Friday, 23 November 2012

Writing Up A Storm!

Desmond and I have completed the next couple of books in the Tales of Pandora series!  We are doing the research on marketing and where best to E-publish. The number of websites is overwhelming! We're trying to get up to speed with social media and welcome anyone's advice on this....

Here are the covers of the next 2 books to go live within the next couple of weeks!

There's a Fourth (And Final) Book in Pandora Series!

Saving Annik is Book 4 in the tales of Pandora series.  It is in the final editing stage and will be published in December.

Final Preparations for Book Launches!

Well, it's been a busy busy two weeks.

Desmond and I finished the final drafts for the first three books of Tales of Pandora series.

Except now a whole other list- a very, very long list- of things have to be done!
We've had to decide how we're going to market the book- submit to publishers or self publish as an ebook? Well, that wasn't a hard question to answer; and we're putting them up on Amazon etc in the next day or two.

And after all the proofing etc, we're formatting the books for cloud availability, and in the process learning that editors and production staff at publishing houses really, really earn their pay!

And now I'm trying to develop a marketing plan using social media.
I was hesitant about this, because I didn't want to go on Facebook or other sites just to use people. I put that question up, in fact, at the Erotic Readers and Writers Assoc and got some good feedback and genuine encouragement.

Which gave me the guts to set up FB and join some other circles.

Now back to formatting!

Tuesday, 20 November 2012